It is said that a bone that has been broken and reset is stronger in the place where it was broken and I think that can be said of some relationships as well.
Today as I sit here at work on the verge of tears I’m humbled as I realize the truth of that statement for me. I am witnessing the pieces of my life’s puzzle fitting together in a very implausible way. In my heart I know that this is the hand of God weaving his magic. I am thankful that I was able to get over my bitter feelings toward a coworker who had been disrespectful to me 18 months ago and that I’ve let bygones be bygones. Letting go of my grudge has allowed me to get to know the good person she truly is despite some previous bad behavior, and to be receptive to the gifts that she offers.
As I work to build my coaching practice I believe she will be an unlikely but very strong ally for me. She has already introduced me to an organization I can see being pivotal in helping me reach my target market, moving me closer to making my vision a reality. In addition to her contacts and sage advice, she’s also rooting for me to be a success. What a difference 18 months makes!
I am humbled and thankful that this relationship did not play out in the very territorial and unproductive way it started. And, I am in a state of disbelief and I find myself asking, “how was I able to get out of the way and let God work his plan?” The answer to this question comes in the form of a quote by R. D. Laing, “The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice, there is little we can change, until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.” I’ve taken these words to heart and I now apply them to situations in my life where there seems to be more struggle than I believe is necessary (including the one with my coworker 18 months ago). In these embattled points in my life I now stop and ask myself, “What is it here that I’m failing to notice?” And I instantly become more aware of my resistance and suddenly more open to the inconceivable ways the universe is working in my favor.
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